What makes a father a dad? People around the country shared their thoughts.
From a minister:
“My father was a very positive person and moved mountains to create
his dreams. He used to tell me, ‘You can do anything you put your
When I was about to graduate from college, I still had no idea what kind
of work I wanted to do but knew I wanted to work with ‘helping people’
in some way. Just a month away from my graduation I frantically told my
father – ‘I don’t know what I want to be when I grow
up,’ knowing that Dad would have just the right sage advice. Dad
responded, ‘I don’t either!’
At the time it was not reassuring that even Dad, so grown-up and a respected
businessman, did not know what he wanted to be. However, he laughed and
told me that most people don’t know at the tender age of 21. He
reassured me that if I could just trust that LIFE would show me through
experience – and following my heart – the opportunities that
were right for me would appear. He also said it was OK to change my mind
along the way! I felt so relieved as this seemed to make so much sense
to me. And 37 years later…I would still agree. Thanks Dad!!!”
From an executive with a national nursing association:
“My Dad has always been an amazing example across the board. He taught
me to respect all people and set an example that integrity extends from
the CEO to the roughnecks working on the rigs. As we leaned this, we also
saw how to give of ourselves, knowing it would come back even bigger,
and when we most needed it.
He also instilled in us that there is always more than one way to do just
about anything. This gave me my knack for outside the box thinking and
problem solving. Even what seem like YES/NO questions often have more
than the two obvious answers/solutions.
But what has always stood out is that through example and practice, my
Dad raised my brother and me to be self-sufficient. Once we made it on
our own, he stood back and let us fly. Even times when we might be headed
for disaster, he allowed us to live our own lives, knowing we had the
skills to thrive. He never said ‘I TOLD YOU SO!’ Each time
we fall he is there to help us learn the lesson, regroup and keep going.
He believes in us!”
From a yoga teacher:
“My father passed away when I was little, but I remember he always
did things he didn't want to do to make me happy. There are pictures
of this rough ‘manly man’ carrying these naked dolls for me
at the lake....”
From a financial manager:
“So many wonderful things my dad did for me! Giving me an allowance
and making me abide by it so I could learn to manage money. Encouraging
me to go to college and making it possible. But one piece of advice he
gave me will always stick with me. When I'm stressing about something,
he told me to pick a date on the calendar a week or two ahead. Until that
date I picked comes, I'm not allowed to think about the problem. Ninety-nine
percent of the time the problem won't nearly seem as big when you've
taken a break away from it, the answer will become obvious, or the problem
will have resolved itself. And he was right!”
From a college professor:
“I took a math test in first grade and should have gotten a 100.
Instead, the nun gave me a 94%. I tried to tell her, but she wouldn't
listen. I cried the whole six-block walk home. I told my mother. She told
me I still had an A. That made me cry even more.
I took my wet crumpled paper to the porch to wait for my dad. I knew he
would understand. He drove up right at 5pm as always. I was crying and
pointing at the paper because I couldn't speak the words to explain.
He understood...and drove me straight to the convent. He explained what
happened to the nun. She apologized directly to me and changed the grade
on the spot! I will always remember that!”
To all the dads, and the parents or guardians fulfilling that role, we
at Optimum Health Institute (OHI) salute you.
Why not show your dad how much he means to you by gifting him with a visit
to an OHI healing mission in San Diego or Austin, Texas? We’re celebrating
40 Years of Holistic Healing this year. Our caring team will help him
achieve his mental, physical, emotional and spiritual goals for optimal
health. Visit our website at
www.optimumhealth.org, and call us at
(800) 993-4325 to make a reservation.